My husband and I are private people. We keep to ourselves—more than we probably should—because we like ourselves and each other. I’m pretty shy and I guess we’re both slightly anti-social. So, our approach to a second adoption puts us right out of our joint comfort zone. This time, in addition to our profile on It’s About Love, we have a profile on Parent Profiles (should be active beginning of next week), and are using our family blog to advertise our desire to adopt again.
It has been difficult for us to have all of our information—so much of it incredibly personal—on the Web for the whole world to see. (It’s kind of like standing in the middle of the street, naked, and wondering who is looking at me through their blinds.) But we know that we need to get ourselves out there. It’s a strange dichotomy of wanting people to see it and not wanting people to see it. We just want the right people to see it. I’m uncomfortable with the idea of trying to sell ourselves. To show what amazing people we are, what fabulous parents. And the thought that we’re in “competition” with so many other amazing, fabulous couples doesn’t set well with me, either. It feels wrong to be brainstorming to find ways to make us appear as appealing as we think we are. (Please note that we are not misrepresenting ourselves in any way, just wanting to use the best pictures, the best stories.) Maybe more appealing than other people. Is anyone with me here? Do you feel like you come across as saying, “Hey, look at us! We’re better than those other people.”? Do you feel weird about it? (Disclaimer: I don’t feel like we’re better than other couples hoping to adopt, and I want everyone to get a baby.)
Marketing myself just isn’t in my nature, but I know that we have to be proactive in searching for our child. We need to make it easy for the right people to find us. I can’t wait to get our Pass Along Cards. It seems like such a more personal way to get the word out.
SOMEBODY please comment. Tell me what you are doing to market yourself. Tell me how you feel. Tell me I’m crazy, if you think I am. Tell me you know exactly how I feel (if you do) so we can validate each other! If you prefer, send me an email at sdavisfordhamATgmailDOTcom. Thank you!
(And Britnee, I didn’t mean to copy your idea. This is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time, and it seemed to follow your post well.)