Saturday, May 14, 2011

Finding your Birth-mother and blog Importance...

I have to say that ever since we have decided to adopt I am amazed by all the people I have come into contact with...I mean people who I most likely would have never met that now I get to have a connection with.  I feel really special to have this chance to know all of you!  I love to read all of your strories and life adventures...yes I am a blog creeper to the fullest I have to admit...I read alot...I must admit many of you were the ones that unknowingly helped me to create my own adoption blog  before we were even fully certified...some were so beautiful...some had amazing ideas for me...and luckily only a few had what I didn't want to do, but those taught me ALOT!

When I was learning about exposure (aka: finding ways for us to be matched with our birth-mom) I soon realized I had to have a blog for her to read and for everyone I know to know about this blog.  And so that she could find us or vice versa.  I can not stress enough the importance of any couple who is hoping to adopt to get a blog created, get it on other blogs (links to it/blog buttons) and most importantly UPDATING it! 

I know many of you have created beautiful blogs but if they haven't been updated regularly how is your birth-mother or someone that knows your birth-mother or someone who may know someone who knows her supposed to know if you even want to adopt anymore if it has old posts!  I will say that when I look at other blogs this is the first thing I notice and I wonder "did they already adopt?" or "are they still wanting to adopt?" or "are they even the same now as then?"  I guess what I am trying to say is that the reason you have an Adoption blog (if you have one) is for her and doesn't she deserve to know you!  After all she is going to be your birth-mother...the person who gave or gives your child life...

As a blog creeper...which I know many of you are like me and creep...we want to know what is going on with you so she most likely does too...Since taking this blog over I have seen just how many people blog creep and you would be floored at how much exposure you can have by having an active blog.  If you want to see what it is like just click and see this blogs Feedjit tracker located in the lower left column.  If you click on "real time" which is located on the bottom of the tracker you can see who is coming to this blog and where they are going (meaning which blogs) and where they even came from. Or you can click here and see instead.

BTW make sure your blog has a way for your birth-mother to contact you and that it has a link to your adoption profile with your agency.  This is way important!

Once you get your blog up or if you have one already I am more than happy to post your link on our list of couples hoping to adopt so that you can have the exposure.  You will notice that I have it set so that you can see when someone posted last... I know I don't look at the ones that never post updates so why would your potential birth-mother. But I know I do look at everyone's when they update!

I hope this didn't offend anyone because that is not what I meant to do I just wanted to help since others of you have helped me so much too...

5 comments:

Que and Brittany's Adoption Journal said...

Excellent post! I think a mistake that a lot of couples make is creating a blog or a site that is merely a stale replica of their LDSFS profile. Updates are important! Blogs allow for more of a personal connection (and a lot more writing space) than our LDSFS profiles do. I wish more people would take advantage of it!

B.I.B said...

Birth Moms want information!!! Choosing a family is the HARDEST and BIGGEST decision besides adoption itself that a birth mom makes! We want to know what kind of family we are giving our BABY to...do you understand the importance of that statement?? We want to see you every day...we want to know what you are doing...LOVE THE POST!! Thank you for sharing!

We are happy to post blogs for people that are hoping to adopt as well!! Just let me know!!

Ashley
Blessings in a Basket!
www.blessingsinabasket.org

Jared and Devin said...

excellent posting!! so, so true too. we're hoping to adopt and already i can tell how important it is to keep updating your blog. thanks so much!

Emily and Dan Adopt said...

Great post, I am still trying to figure out this whole blogging thing! Very good advice! Thanks!!-Emily

www.itsusdanandemily.blogspot.com

Stacey said...

I love this idea! Thanks for sharing!!

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