I don't know if any of your were like me but I loved the talk that Elder D. Todd Christofferson gave at this April's General Conference entitled "As Many as I love, I rebuke and Chasten." Now many of you may be thinking how does this have to do with Adoption already and I will get there...lol...In this talk he speaks about a farmer and a little Currant bush that was on the farmer's land and that the farmer had to prune down this bush because it wasn't reaching it's potential and then related it to chastening.
Divine chastening has at least three purposes: (1) to persuade us to repent, (2) to refine and sanctify us, and (3) at times to redirect our course in life to what God knows is a better path.
When I heard this talk this year it totally hit me...I am that currant bush...There have been so many times that I have wondered "Why are you doing this Heavenly Father?"..."We are doing what we are supposed to do and just want to build our family"...(I am sure many of you can relate)...but then I realized (in an awe moment) that I am needing to be redirected to his plan...his plans are better than mine...even if they are hard for me to see or I feel like how can it be at times, they always are.
He later goes on to state:
"Nevertheless the Lord seeth fit to chasten his people; yea, he trieth their patience and their faith."
... Their faith was immeasurably strengthened by their experience, and ever after they enjoyed a special bond with the Lord.
The struggles of infertility are enough to try even the most patient people but the rewards that we will have from the struggle are like Elder Christofferson said "immeasurable."
God uses another form of chastening or correction to guide us to a future we do not or cannot now envision but which He knows is the better way for us.
Struggles bring us closer to Heavenly Father. I know that this path of infertility and adoption leads to special gifts that some others will never get to experience spiritually. We are being refined and purified so that when we do receive these gifts we are ready and can appreciate them. He wants us to reach our full potential and sometimes we must be cut down like the little currant bush in order to do so...