Find Ideas

To the right we have a survey posted on what things you would like to read about on this blog. One of the main things that you have said (so far) is that you would like some ideas. Well, I have a few.

#1. If you are trying to adopt, try spending at least 15 minutes a day on adoption stuff. Now this could be re-doing your adoption profile, mailing out pass-a-long cards (not the Church pass-a-long cards- waiting to adopt pass-a-long cards!) working on your Parent Profile or writing on your blog.

#2. Make some adoption Goals. I always work harder when I have a smaller sized goal to achieve and feel happy when I do it. Some of these goals can be to buy a pack of newborn diapers, write a letter to your newborn baby this week or give away 15 pass-a-long cards this week.

#3. Recognize things in your life that are time-wasters and avoid them. For me it is facebook. I tend to get on there and then I need to know what everyone has posted. Maybe someone will have posted something and I would have missed it! Giving yourself a time limit or limiting yourself to only a certain time of the day is very helpful. Or cutting it out all together is even an option.

When we are actively working on our adoption- we will see results. Things will get done and we will be happy. Progress is a wonderful, beautiful thing.

These ideas can also be used for couples who have been chosen to adopt as they prepare for their new little one and for Birth Mothers who are preparing to give birth as well.

Good luck, everyone!

Megan

DID You all SEE!

Brandon and Corrine have ADOPTED!   Go check out their blog!  He is soooo cute!  I am so Happy for you both!  How Exciting...and btw this baby is going to be one styling kiddo...love the rockin guitars!!!

Click Here to visit their blog!

Hoping to Adopt Feature!

Hi! We are Jake and Terri. We met when I moved in next door to Jake. After we got married, we planned to have children right away. Things didn’t go as planned and even after seeing lots of doctors and having fertility treatments, we have not been blessed with biological children.

We had thought about and looked into adoption for a long time. We thought international adoption was right for us. We met with several agencies and went to adoption information meetings. Nothing ever felt quite right. Then my mom was talking to a friend at church. Her friend’s daughter was pregnant and thinking about making an adoption plan. She was willing to consider us so we moved as fast as we could to get the paperwork done and be approved in time for the baby. We were thrilled that we were starting the process and felt strongly that we were doing the right thing. The mom decided to parent, but now we are ready!

We are very excited to be parents and experience all that children bring to a home.  We hope to have an open adoption with a birth mom who is a part of our lives. We know the more people that love and care for children the better.  Why have a family tree when you can have a family forest!

We have continued to pray and research and learn about adoption. We have met so many wonderful people on this journey. We have received lots of help and have been able to help others on their journey. Friends have passed along our pass along cards. Family has responded to our emails and suggested us to those who are considering adoption.

We are so blessed to have many people praying for us and keeping us in mind. We pray for families that are making and have made the decision to place a child for adoption.  

To learn more about us click here...

Being Excited while you wait...and wait...and wait...

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This topic has been coming up alot lately in some conversations I have been having with my friends and then in Ashley's post (Make room for me)...sometimes or more like, often times we go through this huge process of getting certified to adopt and then we are like "where is our baby"...we expect it to happen right away...granted it does for some...but most of us we have to wait a time before our baby joins our family.   I think it is because we are thinking "ok I have been waiting a long time" (the trying part/dealing with infertility) and we think that as soon as we are certified it is bound to be here...unfortunately, this is not usually the case and that is ok.

Recently, I was speaking to my friend Brielle about this and she had a great way of looking at this...she said "when we get certified it is kinda like we just found out we are pregnant"...or at least we should think about it this way.  When someone is pregnant they are EXCITED the entire time! (well maybe not when they are throwing up...lol)  They aren't thinking "oh...I have to wait 9 months to see my baby...this sucks" no they are thinking "I am going to go look at baby clothes and not feel weird doing it!"  They don't care if they don't look pregnant yet!  Like WE.. tend to tell ourselves when we want to shop for the baby we will eventually have.

They don't think "I am not going to get excited about this baby or do a thing to plan until I know the babies sex or they come home from the hospital"...like WE as adoptive couples often do...They are excited for what will come and are glad to have the time to plan...They don't think about all the bad things that could happen...like WE as adoptive couples tend to focus on...When is the last time you heard a pregnant woman say "I hope I don't have a still born...my friend did"...but when was the last time you heard an adoptive couple say "I hope I don't have a failed placement like my friends had to go through, I hope they don't change their mind."  They don't walk around with tons of doubts...(yes I know there are some but you know what I mean)...they walk around with the thoughts of assumption of this is good...everything will be ok...they just TRUST...

Now, I know we aren't pregnant but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't be excited during the process...this wait is like you are pregnant and the baby hasn't been born yet...we need to act like it.  Now, I know if you knew me personally, you would know that I am totally into attracting what I want into my life (law of attraction) and the BEST way to attract what you want is to FEEL the FEELINGS of having it already!  A pregnant woman is constantly feeling the feelings of having it now, way before it is visible or she can even feel the baby kick.  We also can do lots of things to feel it now...Like Ashley said...start your babies room...shop for baby clothes like you would (No one is thinking "you don't belong here in the baby section"...you know you think this! And hey if you buy boy stuff and you end up with a girl I am sure you know plenty of women at church who will have a boy for those clothes to give as gifts!).

Start to talk as if it is happening...Be happy for your friends that are having babies or have been chosen (I know this one is WAY hard) but you would want them to be happy for you...As my friend Jaymie had said last time I saw her "you will have your day."  Let's be present and joyous about these special little spirits that are coming to these families...YOUR baby is coming...

Get involved in something that will help you help others!  FSA is an amazing way to get involved and know people that are on this journey you are on...you never know who they will know!  My friend Kris' birth-mom actually met my friend Brielle prior and that is how she learned of Kris!

I know that when we help others get what they want, we get what we want and usually it happens when you are not focusing on the "why am I not getting what I want" part.  I have to say that for me this Blog came into my life at the perfect moment...I truly love being able to try to help us all in this journey...I love that we have been gaining in our exposure (just google - LDS Adoption and we are on the 1st page!)...this blog is my way of helping others get what they want...I love that I can help you be featured to your possible birth mom or the one that may see your profile and then tell your birth mom!  This blog has helped me so much...and has helped me when waiting...I am so thankful for all of you that read this blog and what it has given me...

On the Lord's Timing

I have hunted for this video because I just loved it so much even WAY before we ever considered adoption...Heavenly Father's plan and timing is ALWAYS what is best for us even when we are like "Please just let this be it Heavenly Father!"  He knows what we need and He KNOWS how we need to be prepared to receive it...I know many of us wish it could be His plan but our timing but that isn't how it works is it...We would never feel the overwhelming Joy if everytime we just got what we wanted when we wanted it...We would maybe never want for the things He knows we would really want if we didn't face adversity and struggle...He knows whats best...

Just click here to watch the video...

Who will you adopt?

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Today is Wednesday and it's the very first day of June. Happy June, everyone! How is summer treating you? Are you ready to adopt this year? How is the little one you may have adopted already? How are your goals coming along? Just a friendly reminder- Adoption Pass along cards is having a give away! Post a comment and you can win 1000 free pass along cards!!! What a great deal! I love it! Mail them out to your family. Post the pics on your facebook page. Let's get working!!!

The other night I had dream about a sweet little baby boy- his head so warm and soft and fuzzy in my hands. I dreamt about him again two nights later. It was touching. It was surprising. It was a gift from Heaven. A little moment where Heaven Father blessed me with a tender mercy. I am so thankful for tender mercies. I am so thankful for adoption that can allow my dream to become a reality. I know that God knows us. He hears and answers our prayers. He is there for us.

Who will you adopt? Will it be a boy or girl? Will it be an open or closed adoption? Will it be someone you foster Parent and then adopt? Will it be from LDS family services or a different agency? Will it be through Parent Profiles or through a pass along card? Will it be an international adoption? One Heart Bulgaria is a touching non-profit organization that helps provide relief to the orphans in Bulgaria. Adoption from there is an option as well.

Who will you adopt? I know that as we keep our hearts open to the many different options and choices available, we will find the best fit for us. Prayer. Hope. Faith. Love.

Here's to happy adopting,

Megan